I have tried online dating on three separate occasions. The first time I was terrified and the second time I was frustrated. The third time was better because I finally read-up on the topic, asked my friends what they were writing online, and experimented with my profile until I got the attention I wanted.
As a favor to yourself, don’t make the same mistakes as me.
Mistake Number One: Ignore Your Competition I went weeks without ever looking at other women’s profiles. It didn’t occur to me that I should one-up my competition. It’s important to compare yourself to others and make your profile stand out. Do of women in your zip code have a picture of themselves watching a baseball game? If so, maybe you should have a picture of yourself playing the game.
Mistake Number Two: Your Photo Never Changed I picked a new photo and changed my profile a bit every couple of weeks after I found a guy whose profile stayed exactly the same for months. Even though I liked the guy, I didn’t write him because I thought if his profile was the same for so long, then he wasn’t interested in impressing anyone. I realized that I should spice up my profile from time to time so I didn’t get passed by more than once.
Mistake Number Three: Upload the Wrong Photo It’s safe to assume that we’ve all been in relationships before, or have a friend of the opposite sex that likes to hug or hang on us. Avoid photos with other people or photos where it’s obvious someone has been cut out.
Nice try, but pictures of you with babies or puppies is cheap.
And then, of course, are the photos of you in your bathing suit. It’s great that you’re hot and want to tell someone, but keep it classy.
Mistake Number Four: Writing a Novel Five-hundred and eighty words describing your ideal date is too much for our attention spans. Written portions in your profile should never be too long. In the second, third, and fourth e-mails to your match it’s ok to write a novel because that will certainly let that person know you’re interested.
Mistake Number Five: Played a Broken Record Make yourself sound unique by focusing on your distinctive attributes like, for instance, the fact that your eyes change from hazel to green depending on your outfit. Avoid clich phrases like “I’m laid back” or “My friends say I’m…” Making yourself stand out may be the most important aspect of an online profile.
Mistake Number Six: Wear Your Heart on Your Sleeve No one cares that you just broke up, or that you’ve been hurt before. Let me take that back, everyone looking at your profile cares, but not in a good way. Don’t say things like, “I just got out of a relationship and am just looking to have fun” or “I’ve had bad luck finding a good man, and now I’m here to find Mr. Right.” It’s ok that you’re heart-broken; just keep it to yourself or you risk scaring a lot of great suitors away.
Mistake Number Seven: No Second Opinion For a small fee, a profile writing service can help you write your profile. If that’s not an option you should definitely ask a friend to review what you’ve written because, let’s be honest, it’s hard to write about yourself.
Online dating is not hard, and shouldn’t be scary. If you have the right attitude and keep your expectation realistic-as you should do in all types of dating-the outcome will only be positive.
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About the Author: Sara Musfeldt operates a blog with dating stories and dating profile tips for everyone. She has also created an online dating advice to help singles everywhere find love.
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